In his play, Tennessee Williams has dealt again and again with the problem of loneliness and alienation.  He speaks for a whole generation of literary prophets.  In one of his earlier plays, Williams wrote, “If loneliness is as prevalent as we are led to believe that it is, than surely the great sin of our time must be to be lonely alone.” 

All of us know this grim battle with loneliness.  Everyone lives in their own world of perception, one that nobody else can really know.  Everyone feels isolated to some degree.  Loneliness is so frightening because it is born out of fear.  We fear one another, lest we be rejected by the other.  We fear that we will be misunderstood, unloved and unwanted, so we draw within ourselves, afraid to live courageous, honest lives.   

I like the incident in the life of Rupert Brooke, the handsome poet.  May 1913, he was to leave Liverpool docks to sail for America but there was no one to see him off.  Others had friends but he had none.  Looking down the liner he saw a dirty, little ragamuffin.  He went to him and asked, “Will you wave to me if I give you sixpence?”  The boy agreed.  So, as the great liner slipped away from shore and friend waved to friend, a dirty rag was waved by a dirty hand.  The poet wrote later, “I got my sixpence worth and my farewell.” 

Perhaps, these things can help us find the cure for our loneliness.
First, we must ask our self a question which is, “Is my loneliness my own fault?”  I once read about a woman named Edith of whom this was said, “Edith is a very small island, bounded on the north, on the south, on the east and on the west by Edith.”  Imprisoned in self, a self full of self-pity and bitterness which dirves people from us.
Secondly,  we must remember something and that is, that there is power in belonging.   We belong to the human race.  We are creatures made by God. If Christians, we belong to the family of God, members one of another in Christ’s body, the Church.  We must belong to something or someone bigger, stronger, and better than our self.
Then, thirdly, we must have something to do. There must be an expression of our self in some kind of service to others.  We must reach out to do something significant.  Jesus said, “For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me and for the gospel will save it.”  Mark 8:35 
Man’s true escape from loneliness is found in a relationship of love with others and with God.  All of us want to be loved, to feel desired, counted important and to be wanted.

God is providing the only sure escape from loneliness in the offer of His love and companionship.  God through His Son, Jesus and the Holy Spirit has determined not to leave us alone. He has promised His presence.  Our loneliness comes out of our stubborn refusal to be loved and to love.  Accept God’s love for you and share His love with others.  Remember, Jesus said to all who are obedient to Him,                       “I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”


  1. Max, this is one of my Favorites !
    I am so thankful you are still faithful to send out these devotionals . May God continue to bless you with words of love and wisdom to share to others !

  2. Max, thanks for the reminder that in order to avoid loneliness to focus on Christ and others.

  3. Yes, we are responsible for our own loneliness. When Harry and I retired from located ministry, we found a place to serve in our new church home. Harry served as an elder and I taught a group of 5 year olds. Then shortly we started having a Bible Study in our home and also working with the senior group in the body of Christ – the church. When Harry went home to be with God, I still had my group that came every week. They had gone over board to help with food and places to stay for out of town guests. I also served as a treasurer of the subdivision. Keep Busy! with God’s work.

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